The Golden Rule: Beaten Up But Not Defeated (Part 1 of 3)

Heart and SoulApplying the Golden Rule as Matthew 7:12 says “So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.” New International Version (NIV) can be challenging but the rewards for doing so no matter what the circumstances are outstanding.  One must dig deep inside one’s heart and soul at times when the rule is to be applied under some circumstances and many of us will find ourselves in a position where this is required.

My life in recent years has required me to more than dig deep to apply the Golden Rule under circumstances that I hope few will ever have to face.  Only now, a full two years since the events unfolded have the rewards started to appear, rewards not asked for or even expected but nonetheless they have come in a way that cannot be measured.

On New Year’s Eve, 31st December 2013 at 11:49 pm my mobile phone rang.  The number that flashed in front of me sent a chill down my spine, a number I vaguely knew and one I hoped was not what I thought. The number was what I thought and the call was devastating to say the least.  The call was from a local hospital, the emergency room and I knew even before I answered it that it was not good news. All day I had felt something bad would happen, God told me to ensure my then 11 year old son was with me and I cancelled all my New Year’s Eve plans, something said don’t have a drink and just make sure your phone is on at all times. I never knew then that what was about to happen would see me apply the Golden Rule under the toughest circumstances imaginable.

My ex-wife, my son’s mother, was in a rocky relationship with a man who had a temper and who liked a drink. The last few months had seen me rescue my son from a very toxic environment. I had been divorced just over 2 years and my son came first, and while his mom was still part of our lives I had no love for her, not in the marital sense anyhow.  I did what I did on more than one occasion to help my son; it is after all what I would have expected my own father to do for me.

On the night of 31st December 2013 the whole rocky relationship flared up and the call from the hospital was to say my son’s mother had been assaulted and beaten up badly. The coward of a boyfriend beat her and ran, throwing her down a flight stairs and fleeing when concerned neighbours broke in through the garage door.  Semi-conscious she was taken to hospital by the good Samaritans, who today I have never said thank you to because they never gave names and were merely visiting and staying next door for the Christmas vacation, and left.  Battered and bruised, purple she was hospitalised overnight and the hospital phoned to tell me what the story was. 

That night I could not visit the hospital and my son and I barely slept with worry and tears flowed.  The next day, New Year’s Day 2014 I applied the Golden Rule under tough circumstances for the first time, little knowing that this would be by far the easiest time it was applied.  I dropped my son with friends who were aware of the situation and I made my way to meet his Mom.  What greeted me was horrific; the woman I once loved was smashed to pieces and just needed someone to help her. I stood up; I could have so easily walked away but chose instead to help. If the tables were turned I would expect the same to be done for me.

I went out of my way to escort my ex-wife to the police station to lay a charge of assault and try, where possible to bring some sort of sanity back into the situation.  I had little money but what I had was used to ensure all she needed in terms of medication, groceries and even a mobile phone was taken care of. For the rest of the morning I stood as a man by her side rebuilding the foundations of a life quite literally beaten and smashed up.

Later in the day I brought my son to see his mom, at first it was thought it was not the right thing to do but in retrospect it was the best. He saw his mom, purple, battered, bruised, destroyed but alive and they cried. Anger exploded inside him and for the next few months this too was to push my limits and do for him as I would expect other to do for me.

Man LimitThis was the start of a journey that pushed my application of the Golden Rule to the absolute limit not knowing then that the rewards that would eventually come, and are still to come, would outweigh anything the human mind can imagine.

In the next post the challenge of applying the Golden Rule will be demonstrated even further as life took another life changing twist.

All the Gold in the world could never replace the damage done to my ex-wife and I doubt none could pay for the fact I stood up and did what I did. There are circumstances where Gold and other precious metals can be a reward, can say thank you. The Noble Mint knows this too well and specializes in fractional Gold Bullion and small quantities of other pure gold and pure precious metal solutions.

Gold cannot pay for what I have done, I don’t expect it to and neither did I do what I did hoping for recognition. I merely applied the Golden Rule because it was the right thing to do; I would not be a Christian if I had not. In the next post the Golden Rule is applied in tougher circumstances still and my faith put to the absolute test.


Matt Newnham is a Christian, Writer and Speaker. He is a single father and lives in Cape Town, South Africa. Matt is passionate about life and success and his ability to touch the heart of readers has earned him the title “The Master of Emotional Appeal” Follow Matt on Twitter @MattNewnhamZA and on his Facebook Page

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